Tailor This Cloth

Imagine you spent an entire evening one Friday, helping with preparations for a key wedding the following day.

The decorations and planning eat late into the night and you end up sleeping as late as 3:30am, only to be woken up at around 6am for the more tedious task of hosting the wedding.

Imagine the ups and downs, runnings, to fetch a plate of rice for a family, a bottle of beer or wine for a friend, ushering visitors and switching roles every now and then for an absent member of the planning committee.

Imagine the exhaustion in the evening when the ceremonies are finally over, your body yearning for a long sleep.

Now, let’s say you finally get home, decide to switch off your phone, take a cold shower, eat something refreshing, with some soft music in the background, as you drift off to sleep away a good number of hours from your life.

Imagine how insane someone would sound, trying to give you a long lecture about the need to cut the number of hours one sleeps, and work hard and build an empire.

Good advice. Wrong time.

Good message. Wrong address.

That individual that wishes to advice you has no idea what you’ve been through that justifies your attitude and actions in the present. And unless they’re willing to listen and understand, you might find them very irritating, and their sermon very useless.

It’s the same for our experiences in life.

Nobody follows you around to all the places you’ve been, to see all the things that’s been done to you, to hear all the things that’s been said to you.

You know what your experiences have been, and based on that you’ve drawn certain conclusions about life.

Those conclusions may be wrong, but it will take a counter experience to unlearn certain things, re-adjust your perceptions and modify or completely change your notion or attitude.

This takes time. No need to rush.

So, don’t allow people to short-circuit your growth, inadvertently retarding your maturity.

Live your truths.

Something true to you may not make sense to another person. They haven’t had the experiences you’ve had that allow them to connect and understand.

So live your life.

It doesn’t mean don’t listen to advice.

Just know which advice is best stored in a dustbin and which is worth tailoring to suit your situation.

By Benjamin Nambu

Website: https://www.greatbenji.business.blog