Frequently I’m asked why I refuse to commit to relationships? Why I rather live alone and focus on my work? The reasoning is that there is no need for a partner. Guy or girl. (And yes, I meant to write guy or girl, everyone is lovable in my eyes.) I feel strong and capable, and much too young to stop experiencing my life to share the little I’ve lived with another.

There is pride in the awareness that I am an independent woman. I pay my bills, fuck who I want, rely on no one for my decisions and have so little attachment to those around me that I find it easy to erase the people I don’t want in my life from it. I celebrate my independence and successes. I’ve done all that I have alone and will continue to do so for as long as it is possible.

By Amber Black